Marriage itch or what?

Can you tell what I'm about to rant on about?? Yeah....rant! 

Well, for the past 5 months that I've been back home, all I've been hearing about is someone in my circles getting engaged, thinking of marriage or just married...and that all sat well with me until I started wondering whether there was some bug that has been scooping around families in Uganda, making it almost a trend.

Without trying to make this subtle; I'll get right to the point. 

What's the deal with people getting hitched?.....at such a tender age!!! YES!! I have always wanted to seal the deal under the oath of holy matrimony...and that was a good 6 years ago...but now...I'm starting to wonder whether I know exactly what that kind of commitment even entails. My parents have been married for more than 25 years and have just about tolerated each other (I am allowed to say that since I get to witness the highs and lows of their marriage).

Bottom line, marriage is no joke and no one should just dive into it like they know the specifics. I mean, no-one will ever know the full responsibilities and expectations until they've gone through with it for a "long ass time" AND have not called it quits. 

With reference to my love life and not disclosing a whole lot, my partner and I are putting our heads round actually sealing the deal when we kinda know what we're getting ourselves into. (I mean, at first, I wasn't fine with that; but slowly and with more exposure to this marriage-craze, I really want to take my time). I mean, the love that we have for each other doesn't diminish aside from the harsh reality that we're miles apart.

During this time that I'm apart from him, I'm learning to embrace solitude, learn more fabulous things about myself and treasuring time with my other loved ones and still create time for the both of us with the help of so many tools available to us; ie skype, whatsapp..gchat...et cetera! Blah blah blah...

With all this rant, I'd like to clarify that I'm not against marriage, and for those that have marriages "in the works"; that's good. We just ought to be extra cautious with this institution called marriage that has brought a lot of happiness and equally crazy amounts of unhappiness. 

Love is a beautiful emotion and is even more beautiful when it's mutual (or at least when it seems to be); and it's even more, more beautiful when it's confessed in front of friends and loved ones. Let's just not rush to the altar blindly.

Ab Intra